There is nothing worse for children than when one parent constantly badmouths the other or even bans them from their lives.
Some of the damage caused is irreparable. We should all speak up about grievances directly or report them to the relevant authorities without hesitation.
Politicians must also finally wake up and enact stricter laws for the well-being and protection of children. They are our future after all.
Chris von Rohr (musician and author)
When parents separate today, they are often separated from their children as well.
We think that shouldn't be the case anymore. Children need both parents , as required by law.
Unfortunately, this is often not the case in reality. Children lose contact with a parent even though the parent doesn't want it. They get into a so-called conflict of loyalty. The child is overwhelmed and as a result believes that the other part has to be rejected, even that it actually has to split off from itself.
This is unhealthy, especially for the child. It suffers in the moment and, as a result, for life.
For the estranged parent, this is also associated with endless suffering and sorrow. The child doesn't want to see you anymore. For no apparent reason. The child is so desperate that at the same time it completely separates from itself the grandparents, the half-siblings and in general all the people of the other parent.
It is a sign of complete helplessness, of desperation!
We want to put an end to this, here and now. Children need both parents, they also and especially in such difficult times need their grandparents, siblings, yes, the whole family environment.
These children need our help!
Join us, help us to finally stop this mental abuse.
We launched the "enough tears" campaign to get politicians to take action and authorities to enforce the law. Together with other European countries, we want the "welfare of the child" to be taken seriously and politicians to finally work for our concerns and, above all, for the children.
It's about the connections between possible mental illnesses and the sad topic of alienation.
Although these connections are often disputed, they have long been scientifically proven. See also here
Due to the high response, the journalist kindly published the article in full length directly on her own homepage .
Media release VeV Switzerland from June 11, 2024
What can specialist departments do? Best practice in parent-child alienation panel discussion: on June 11, 2024 in Oensingen SO
Estranged people get a voice
Event of the “Enough Tears” campaign on April 25, 2024 at the Lavaterhaus in Zurich “It is time to move forward with alternating care and make it happen
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Nicole Barandun, National Councilor Die Mitte and lawyer in Zurich, made this statement in TeleZüri's Sonntalk looking back on the mannschafft event on April 25, 2024. She was a participant in our panel discussion on the 19th International Day of Parent-Child Alienation.
Sitting next to her were Verena Seiler, district judge at the Meilen district court, Monika-Helena Ammann, psychologist, Thomas Geiser, professor of law at the University of St. Gallen, Patrick Fassbind, president of the KESB Basel-Stadt and a concerned parent.
The discussion was moderated by Oliver Hunziker, President of our umbrella organization GeCoBi (Swiss Association for Shared Parenthood).
Each of these professions does its job from its own perspective and does the best.
The reports of concerned parents from the audience and on the podium – fathers and mothers, notaben! - were factual and shook up representatives from politics, the judiciary and law enforcement authorities.
The unanimous statement from the court and KESB was that if they become involved in a separation conflict, it is already too late and alienation has already happened.
Ways must be found to get parents to cooperate in parenting responsibility much earlier in a separation conflict .
Some of the approximately 60 visitors who arrived are themselves affected by alienation. Not only she, but also the panel participants left the room with a few answers and many new questions on the topic.
Ms. Barandun has heard our concerns, and she gives us a voice in the National Council. On behalf of the OC, the club team and all affected children.
Christian Ess, Co-President
Chris von Rohr, Notabene in the current Swiss Illustrated Child Abduction
Parent-child alienation and what similarities there are from a psychological perspective with Stockholm Syndrome. Parent-child alienation is a phenomenon that is not uncommon in Switzerland.
Julia Bleser, systemic family therapist – board member of the parent peace association
Parent-child alienation and Stockholm Syndrome – parental peace
A worthy end to the year for the Enough Tears Switzerland campaign.
A multi-part article on the topic of parent-child alienation appeared on Radio Neo1 between the 2023 holidays.
More about that here
1 year Enough tears Switzerland.
The campaign was launched on November 20, 2022. On November 20th, 2023 we celebrated this day with an exciting panel discussion in Bern. More about that here
Together with our umbrella organization GeCoBi, the IGM organized a well-attended panel discussion in Biel on September 21, 2023:
National Council candidates discussed the topic of “parent-child alienation”.
Another article on the topic appeared in the Berner Landbote. This time the stories of two women affected by alienation. Anyone who believes that alienation only affects fathers will be proven wrong here. Read full article
The magazine Ent!Decidung of the three clubs mannschafft , IGM BE and VeV Schweiz deals in the current issue 2023 with the actions related to the campaign "Enough Tears".
The Berner Landbote recently reported on another tragic case. The concrete case as well as the background is presented on 3 pages. Read here
Enough tears Switzerland in the media
20 minutes "Every tenth child of separation loses contact"
"If it was casual with father, I couldn't tell mother"
Parent-child alienation describes active or passive behavior of a parent towards a child, which puts a strain on the relationship between the child and the other parent. The child gradually adopts the alienating parent's perspective and attitude and is forced to deny his formerly positive relationship with the alienated parent. In the final stage, the contact between the child and the estranged parent breaks off and the child himself rejects any contact. Parent-child alienation is an evolving process that places a massive burden on children and causes lasting damage well into adulthood – often spanning generations. Parental alienation is a form of psychological child abuse.
In order to be able to speak of parent-child alienation, there must be an active, but not compulsory but conscious, negative influence on the child-parent relationship.
Parent-child alienation is not spoken of in the following cases, even if alienation occurs:
Here are the 17 most common alienating behaviors .
Please support our work: With a donation of just 10 francs, you will help us to put up two posters in a Swiss city for a week and thus inform many more people about the abuse of parent-child alienation. Only if we succeed in mobilizing the population will the pressure on politicians and the judiciary become so great that a change in favor of the children affected will succeed. Join now, it doesn't even take a minute!
